To Do List Interview With Carl Sandler, CEO of new app MISTER

To Do List Interview With Carl Sandler, CEO of new app MISTER

Hey, Mister – All Grindr’d Out?

We caught up with Carl Sandler, Huffington Post contributor and CEO of MISTER – the brand new app for gay men which promises to move the focus away from superficial characteristics. MISTER is an app and website for all gay men who are original, bold and filthy sexy.

Hi Carl, tell us more about the app…

MISTER is a dating app for gay men who are original, honest, and authentic, and who want to discover other men who behave with integrity and guts. We invite our members to come as they are.  The app itself is easy to use, simple and intuitive.  There’s also a website that gives you even more ways to meet men.

We believe individual authenticity and honesty go hand in hand with pleasure and possibility. That’s the basis of MISTER. It’s less false and fleeting and more sexy. Honesty and guts are sexy, and both are expected and rewarded at MISTER.

What makes a good MISTER date?

The best dates from MISTER involve people who meet and take the time to get to know each other, laugh, explore and, if the chemistry is right, take things to another level. We believe good men, who are sorted and grounded, make the best dates, hookups or mates.

What makes a relationship last?

Men in relationships that last, and are healthy, usually say that communication and honesty are the keys to longevity. Most men in successful long-term relationships say that their partners are also their best friends, someone they can laugh with, listen to and can support them whenever possible. Personally, I also think that creating space to talk about the things that aren’t working, whether in or out of the bedroom, is key. Talk about problems and issues early and often.

Tell us about your favourite secret/offbeat places in London?

Well, since I run a dating website, I’m really into exploring great date places. I always thinks it’s a good idea to keep things casual for a first date, especially for someone you meet online. I rarely commit to dinner for someone who I have only chatted with so drinks are a good place to start. A great place for cocktails is Town Hall Hotel’s bar in Bethnal Green.  The name says it all. It’s housed in an old Town Hall and it’s very stylish.  They also have two restaurants in there;  Viajante and Corner Room, in case you hit it off and want to spend more time together.

For a more low-key, daytime option, I love the Indian Student Hostel canteen; for me it’s a magical combination of two of my favorite things in the world (Indian Food and the YMCA). It’s a canteen but anyone can go. And trust me, there is plenty of eye-candy.

For a second date, I like places that are nice but not too formal.  You don’t want to scare him off!  One of my favorite date places is The Wapping Project, a restaurant and gallery set in a Victorian hydraulic power station.

What offbeat events are on your To Do List in the next month or so?

Naked Boys Reading is a great, offbeat thing to do. There’s no better way to support the Arts that I can think of.

Holestar’s and Prince Nelly’s take on the pub quiz with a musical edge, Let’s Get Quizzical is on December 4th.

What are your favourite things to do for free or little money in London?

Well, I love vintage photography and books. I have a small collection of old English Sodomy Trials from the 17th and 18th centuries. It doesn’t cost anything to check out some of the book and manuscript auction previews at Christies, Sothebys, Bonhams.  Sometimes you can get great deals. And it doesn’t cost anything at all to look.

What’s your ultimate London confession?

That’s easy. Gingers! In American gingers are very rare so when I come to London, they are at the top on my list.

What event of your own would you like to pimp on To Do List?

Of course, our upcoming MISTER UK Launch Party with DJs Boris Dolinski, PAGANO, Borja Pena, Tom Stephan and more.  Two rooms of music (Bass and Disco), performers, porn stars and a lot of fun.



I am Joint Editor at To Do List. I like: nice pubs, film marathons, not doing real marathons, bad comedy, plays/musicals with shorter second halves, and the Oxford comma.